Being vs. Doing

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Mary J Lore Being vs DoingIt’s self-awareness month and with the recent celebration of Labor Day, I am reminded that we are a nation of laborers. White collar, blue collar, working, not working—we labor. We are busy, busy, busy, doing, doing, doing.

When we find ourselves with a big challenge or facing a difficult situation, we have taught ourselves to labor, to do, do, do. We cancel vacations, skip lunch, work on the weekends, stay late, and force ourselves to think until we have our answers, solved the problem, put out the fire, accomplished the result.

We believe that doing, laboring – force – brings results. We do in order to be.

What if we started with being?

Think about it—when do you get your best ideas? When I ask this in a Managing Thought® workshop, most people say – When I am in the shower.  When I first wake up.  When I am on a walk. When I am exercising.  When I’m driving. When I am relaxing. When I’m on vacation. When I am meditating. When I’m having fun and doing something I love to do.

What’s in common with these responses? You got it — we let go of our thoughts! We’re not forcing ourselves to think our thoughts. We’re not doing. We are being. And because we are being, we gain access to our highest awareness and creativity and what inspires us.

When our channels are open, our minds are clear, the world changes, and remarkable things start to happen. Creative ideas emerge when we give our minds a rest, when we do what we love to do. We don’t waste time, energy, or money. Gone are the constricting feelings of heaviness, burden, and stress and the thoughts of struggle, striving, obligation, overwhelm and being a victim.

When we are being, we focus on what is significant. We start being who we wish to become and what we wish to create. What we do naturally follows, naturally flows. Our work becomes effortless and we become energized because our decisions and actions are inspired.

So the next time you notice that your thinking and doing is labored, instead, wonder what the solution could be, wonder how you could be who you want to be and what you wish to create. Then take some time to be quiet, take a walk, get some fresh air, exercise, do what you enjoy, and see what happens.

We all have the ability to ask ourselves questions, wonder and listen for the answers. We discover the right thing to do and how to do it.  We find a power within that indeed transforms us. We become inspired and inspire others.

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Reflection is a Powerful Action

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Power of ReflectionMany of us don’t have much patience for the process of reflection. We say we want results, yet what we’re really saying is that we want speed.  Einstein said, “There is more to life than increasing speed.”

We’re also saying that we want action. We believe that if we’re not busy doing, then nothing is happening, which is not true. We get our best ideas when we are not busy doing – when we’re driving, showering, running, playing, meditating, relaxing, waking, or falling asleep.

We get our very best ideas when we’re inspired. And one of the most powerful ways we become inspired involves the process of reflection.

Reflection is an action, a very powerful action. Taking a moment to reflect not only brings invaluable learning and opportunity for growth. Reflection invokes a power within ourselves to expand upon what really matters, on what is significant to us, as organizations, families, and human beings. When we know who we really are and what we really want, as organizations, families, and human beings, we become inspired, and our goals and action plans become inspired, meaningful, and purposeful. We stop wasting time, money and energy living each day as we did yesterday, wondering what the heck happened, not noticing the difference we are making, and not experiencing the joy of our work.

When we take a moment to reflect, without blame or judgment, and in a state of wonder, on significant events, triumphs and challenges we experienced during the year, we often discover we’ve accomplished so much more than we have given ourselves credit for.  We discover how much strength we have and we see the values which we embody. We realize the valuable lessons we have learned. And in these moments of acknowledgment and celebration, we receive ideas on how to build upon and expand these strengths and accomplishments.

When we take a moment to reflect, without blame or judgment, and in a state of wonder, upon how we spent our time and money, and what and who influenced us (the economy, a customer, a family member, a friend, a book, an advisor, a competitor, fear, worry, creativity, inspiration…), we see very clearly what we focused on. We then discover we are in alignment with what truly matters – or not –and we receive ideas on how to move forward in a way that serves our purpose.

When we take a moment to reflect, without blame or judgment, and in a state of wonder, on what happened with our relationships with customers, suppliers, the community, family, friends, and co-workers, we can see the difference we have made – for better or worse -and receive ideas on how to move forward in a meaningful way.

And when we step back, reflect upon the reflections, and notice what we are thankful for, we become truly inspired-in touch with our highest awareness and creativity. Our vision and purpose becomes clear and we develop goals and action plans that are inspired

I invite you to include reflection in your family life, in your work life, and for yourself, at the end of the day, so you can begin to see difference you make, move powerfully in alignment with who you truly are what you truly want, experience the joy of your work, family, and friends, and be inspired.

It is when we are inspired that we are unstoppable. It is when we are inspired that we achieve significant, long-lasting results.

 

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The Power of Purpose

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The Power of PurposeThis blog is third in a series of reflections on Managing Thought – lessons learned during the sudden move of my parents from their home that also apply to big changes and challenges we face every day at work and in life.

Picture this: My father is 85, recovering from two minor strokes, fatigued and stressed from caring for my mom, 83, suffering from dementia. Now he and I are faced with the daunting task of downsizing and moving in just three weeks.  As we looked around the house filled with forty years of stuff accumulated because “we might need it someday,” my dad could feel the blood pumping in his neck.

Dad said, “Maybe we shouldn’t move.”  When I asked what he meant, he said, “It’s just too much. Where’s the furniture going to go? It won’t fit. What are we gonna do with all these books? And the garage and basement – how am I going to get through all that? Maybe we should just stay put.”

I exhaled deeply, acknowledged his fear. At any age, moving is a major task, a major life event and a major source of stress. For my dad, caring for my mom, taking care of the house, managing the house, and worrying about their future is also a major source of stress.  To him, with moving or staying put, he was choosing the lesser of two evils. Using logic, he decided to move forward with the move because the stress of moving lasts a month and the stress of staying put continues to build for the rest of their lives.

I asked Dad to tell me the purpose of living at the retirement community. What could it bring to him and mom.“ Mom will feel safe. I can run errands and visit with friends and know that if she needs help, there is always someone there. We get to “go out” to eat and go for walks every day. It’ll be like we’re dating again.  I can make new friends. We can have company and invite them for a nice meal. When it’s time for Mom to move into the special care facilities, I can see her every day … The list went on and on and with each item, Dad’s eyes grew brighter and his posture straightened.

Then ideas started flowing. “I can pick out the books I want to keep and the rest I can donate to the friends of the library. I might be able to get back to painting – do you think there’s room in the new place for my art supplies? There are some tools I want to keep. I can invite my grandson and my neighbor to pick out what they want. Are there companies that help with selling stuff?”

What we feel and what we experience depends on our focus. When Dad focused on the difficulties and choosing “the lesser of two evils,” his thoughts caused stress and shut him down. When he focused on his vision and purpose, he became inspired. Inspired, he became energized and creative. Instead of contracting, he expanded in a direction that served his purpose.

What’s your focus? What’s the purpose of what you’re doing? What does it bring you and others?

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What’s Your Ripple Effect?

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The Ripple EffectAccording to Wikipedia, the ripple effect is a term used to describe a situation where, like the ever expanding ripples across water when an object is dropped into it, an effect from an initial state can be followed outwards incrementally. When I use the term ripple effect in Managing Thought, I mean the difference we make in our lives and the lives of others. Every thought we have creates a ripple effect, makes a difference–for better or worse.

We are all about making a difference. When we know we are making a difference, that’s when we become inspired. When we are inspired we inspire others – a perfect example of the ripple effect in action – and we put in motion the ability to access our highest awareness and achieve significant and long-lasting results.

My next series of daily inspiration thoughts of the day on are focused on the ripple effect and becoming inspired.

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