Being vs. Doing

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Mary J Lore Being vs DoingIt’s self-awareness month and with the recent celebration of Labor Day, I am reminded that we are a nation of laborers. White collar, blue collar, working, not working—we labor. We are busy, busy, busy, doing, doing, doing.

When we find ourselves with a big challenge or facing a difficult situation, we have taught ourselves to labor, to do, do, do. We cancel vacations, skip lunch, work on the weekends, stay late, and force ourselves to think until we have our answers, solved the problem, put out the fire, accomplished the result.

We believe that doing, laboring – force – brings results. We do in order to be.

What if we started with being?

Think about it—when do you get your best ideas? When I ask this in a Managing Thought® workshop, most people say – When I am in the shower.  When I first wake up.  When I am on a walk. When I am exercising.  When I’m driving. When I am relaxing. When I’m on vacation. When I am meditating. When I’m having fun and doing something I love to do.

What’s in common with these responses? You got it — we let go of our thoughts! We’re not forcing ourselves to think our thoughts. We’re not doing. We are being. And because we are being, we gain access to our highest awareness and creativity and what inspires us.

When our channels are open, our minds are clear, the world changes, and remarkable things start to happen. Creative ideas emerge when we give our minds a rest, when we do what we love to do. We don’t waste time, energy, or money. Gone are the constricting feelings of heaviness, burden, and stress and the thoughts of struggle, striving, obligation, overwhelm and being a victim.

When we are being, we focus on what is significant. We start being who we wish to become and what we wish to create. What we do naturally follows, naturally flows. Our work becomes effortless and we become energized because our decisions and actions are inspired.

So the next time you notice that your thinking and doing is labored, instead, wonder what the solution could be, wonder how you could be who you want to be and what you wish to create. Then take some time to be quiet, take a walk, get some fresh air, exercise, do what you enjoy, and see what happens.

We all have the ability to ask ourselves questions, wonder and listen for the answers. We discover the right thing to do and how to do it.  We find a power within that indeed transforms us. We become inspired and inspire others.

What if you could BE who you truly are? Learn how at http://www.MindfulnessMonday.com

 

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For additional ideas on cultivating your life-well lived, check out this inspiring video: Resolutions, Intentions and Affirmations for a Life Well-Lived.

© 2012 Mary J. Lore and Managing Thought LLC All rights reserved.

Recapturing the State of Wonder

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Recapturing the State of WonderWonder is one of  the highest states of consciousness. Wonder ignites our creativity. Wonder lights our soul.

Our best ideas come when we wonder, in a childlike way, what the answer could be, what our next steps could be, when we wonder what’s possible.

I invite you to give it a try.

When I was stuck in a life and career that I thought there was no way out of, I wondered how I could make the highest and best use of my time on this planet. I woke up with the idea that I am responsible for my world, I create my world, and if I want to change my world, I change my thoughts, and so I did.

When I was encouraged by others to document what I learned and share it with others, I developed the workshops. For the first ten or so presentations, I felt fearful and nervous (which isn’t like me).  I wondered about that and woke up with “I am not presenting. I am sharing.  Do not attach to the outcome. Everyone has a duty to test what they learn for themselves, follow the path or change the path.”

When I wondered what to call my work, which could be considered “out there” in the business world,  to intrigue them, I woke up with the idea for Managing Thought®.

When I was asked to write the book, I wondered how others could hear this from ME. I was concerned that I didn’t have credentials on “thought management” and self-awareness. I woke up with ” Truth is truth. Sincerity is all that is needed. Gandhi was a lawyer. Teachers come from unlikely sources.”

When the first edition of my book was inexplicably delayed in the publishing process, I had thoughts of fear that someone else could beat me to the market with a book like this, and I woke up with, “There is no competition for your higher purpose.”

When I wondered how I could make my work available for free to those who might not be able to afford to buy my books or attend a workshop, I woke up with the idea for Page-A-Day and doing a PBS Show.

I have “wondered” my way through calculus and statistics classes, through grieving the death of my husband, through helping my parents through their life transitions, through what I say and do and write when someone asks me for guidance, through handling all kinds of opportunity and difficulty that comes my way. And I get my answers.

We all have the ability to wonder, in a child-like way and get our answers.

Don’t take my word for it. See for yourself. Instead of needing to solve a problem or having to come up with a solution or not having any idea what to do or where to turn next, I invite you to re-invoke the state of wonder — and see what happens.

The next series of daily inspiration thoughts of the day are powerful statements and questions on re-invoking the state of wonder.  There are three posts a day.

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The Power to Choose Significance

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Mary Lore and Gregg Simmons 9-18-2005On September 18, 2002, I was in Taos, New Mexico for a week-end retreat. At the time, I was in the process of dramatically changing my line of work, transitioning from the world of finance and crisis management to the world of Managing Thought®. I had never been to a retreat before and the only reason I went was to meet Taoist Master Ni Hua-Ching. He had fully dedicated himself to help people raise their consciousness and bring about a better world and I wanted to learn first-hand how he had constructed this life for himself.

As it turns out, Master Ni didn’t show. He returned to China and put the retreat in the hands of his two sons. My first thoughts and emotions were of disappointment. I wanted to speak with Master Ni. Only Master Ni could make this retreat worthwhile for me!

I quickly recovered and with full faith that something valuable and meaningful could be gained, I wondered what it could be. I went to breakfast, sat down and looked across the table into the eyes of an amazing man who I married three years later, on September 18, 2005 – Gregg Simmons.

During our time together, I gained so much.

  • He helped me expand my capacity to love deeply, laugh heartily and live life fully.
  • He saw the love and light in me, held up the mirror so I could see it too, and he encouraged me to share this light with others.
  • He introduced me to his friends who are now my friends.
  • When he died suddenly just three months after our wedding, friends and family said it was a shame that our time together was so short. Because we were so in the moment in each of our moments, it felt like we were together forever. He helped me experience the true power of being in the moment.

As I reflect on this, I find a valuable and meaningful lesson.

On the surface, it seems that September 18th is a day of great significance for me.

To me, the real significance is in the moment, in the choices I made when I learned that I wouldn’t be meeting Master Ni. In that moment, I could have chosen to remain disappointed or get angry, leave the retreat or skip breakfast. I could have been so caught up in my emotions that I didn’t notice Gregg, or listen to him, or caused him to be disinterested in me.

Because I chose to wonder how I could gain something valuable and meaningful from the retreat to help me be of service to the world, I met the man who helped me to do just that.

I have the opportunity for significance all day long every day. As “stuff” happens, I always have the opportunity to choose who I wish to become and what I wish to create in this world.

I have the power to choose significance.

How can you choose significance today?

For more on this, read or listen to the Forward Thinking™ Reminder, Choosing Intentions.

P.S.  Gregg Simmons, it is my honor and joy to have been your best friend, lover, confidante, teacher, student and fellow adventurer.  Thank you for introducing me to carrot cake. I am enjoying a piece as I write this and I raise my plate to you!

© 2011 Mary J. Lore and Managing Thought LLC All rights reserved.

Making Powerful Statements

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Making Powerful StatementsOur brains look for, and focus on, things that are consistent with our experience. In other words, our brains perceive a reality that is consistent with our past experience. Then it stores this reality and inevitably reinforces the experience.

Even though that’s how our brains work, we are in control. We are in control of our thoughts. We are in control of our focus. We are in control of our minds. We are the ones observing our thoughts and we have the ability to choose to utilize or discard what our brains present to us. We have the ability to our shape our thoughts.

We shape our thoughts by choosing our intentions, by asking ourselves powerful questions, and by making powerful statements to our selves.  Powerful statements are those that remind us of how we choose to think. Powerful statements keep us focused on the moment and  remind us of our intentions and what truly matters to us. As we go about our day and experience what others do and say, we can consciously, purposefully, make powerful statements to ourselves that remind us of how we choose to think, feel, act, or react.  We don’t waste time, money and energy thinking and acting in a way that moves us away from what truly serves our purpose.

We can have powerful statements ready for those moments when we are challenged by old thought patterns.

The current theme of my Daily Inspiration Thoughts of the Day is Making Powerful Statements. There are three posts a day offering guidance on how to turn what is significant to you to reality by making powerful statements. Follow or visit Managing Thought on Twitter to receive them as they post or come back to this blog daily and view the Daily Inspiration on Twitter feed in the right-hand menu bar.

For additional practical guidance on making powerful statements, check out Chapter 14 of Managing Thought.

© 2011 Mary J. Lore and Managing Thought LLC All rights reserved.

Asking Powerful Questions

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Asking Powerful QuestionsThe questions we ask ourselves have a powerful impact on what we feel and what we experience everyday. The questions we ask ourselves, and how we ask those questions, are key to whether or not we take action to fulfill our intentions, or how much time, money or energy we may waste attempting to fulfill an intention.

Changing the questions in our heads changes what our brains see, which changes our perceptions, which changes our experiences, which changes our focus to our intentions and what matters to us. This is how we achieve significant results.

Powerful questions do not involve making other people or situations change. Instead, they involve helping to change the world by changing ourselves. They all are asking, “What can I do?” and “How can I help?” They involve being proactive vs. reactive. They bring about an inner peace. They ignite wonder, creativity and move us toward what inspires us.

Powerful questions guide us to our vision of who we intend to be and who we intend to become.

The current theme of my Daily Inspiration Thoughts of the Day is Asking Powerful Questions. There are three posts a day offering guidance on how to turn what is significant to you to reality by asking powerful questions. Follow or visit Managing Thought on Twitter to receive them as they post or come back to this blog daily and view the Daily Inspiration on Twitter feed in the right-hand menu bar.

For additional practical guidance on asking powerful questions, check out Chapter 13 of Managing Thought.

© 2011 Mary J. Lore and Managing Thought LLC All rights reserved.

Choosing Our Intentions is One of the Greatest Powers We Possess

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As I talk about in my Managing Thought workshops, what we feel and what we experience depends on what we choose to focus.  We have the ability to choose our focus and ultimately our reality. We choose our focus by choosing our intentions.

During difficult times or when we’re in a low period, our brains can present thoughts to us that may not be useful. When we practice self-awareness, even in difficult times, we can see our thoughts for what they are—thoughts. We know that we are the observer of these thoughts and we can choose whether to utilize these thoughts or not. We can choose our intentions.

The current theme of my Daily Inspiration Thoughts of the Day is Choosing Our Intentions. There are three posts a day offering guidance on how to transform negative thinking and focus on what you want to achieve significant results. Follow or visit Managing Thought on Twitter to receive them as they post or come back to this blog daily and view the Daily Inspiration on Twitter feed in the right-hand menu bar.

If you want more on choosing intentions, click here to listen to audio, download a PDF or read online.

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