In this video clip, Mary explains we are by nature happy, healthy, creative, full of energy, and inspired.
In the mid 1990’s, I had a defining moment—an aha! At the time, I was working over 100 hours per week and racking up several hundred thousand frequent flyer miles each year. I had no personal life, canceled every vacation I had planned, and rarely remembered what day of the week it was, much less whether or not it was a weekend.
One day, I was at my desk and my eyesight went blurry. Soon, I couldn’t see at all. As it turned out, I almost lost my eyesight from dehydration and suffered from a severe kidney infection. I asked myself, What am I doing? I began to secretly fantasize about how nice it would be to have the jobs of the people who worked with me. I even imagined working in the local bagel shop. Sure, I would make less money. I reasoned I could go home at night without a care in the world. Certainly, I thought, I wouldn’t go blind from working so hard.
When I reflected further, I realized that I had those jobs—in high school, in college, and earlier in my career. I remembered that even then, I also worked a lot of hours, canceled vacations, and managed to turn every job I had into a bigger challenge. I certainly did not go home at night without a care in the world. I then decided to look at what all those jobs had in common. And what do you think that was?
ME! I was the only common element. I couldn’t blame the job or the people I worked with or the circumstances. I was the only common thread. That was my aha! I realized that I was responsible for my world. Whatever position or situation I happened to be in, I created my own world.
I decided that I wanted to change my world. I realized that the only way I could change my world was to change myself. The only way to change myself was to manage what was going on inside my head. I knew that my thoughts were the only things over which I had complete responsibility and accountability. I made a commitment to self-cultivation—the continuous improvement of myself. It was then I began my journey.
Five years later, friends and colleagues saw the changes in me and in how I was working with companies and asked me what I did. They encouraged me to document the process and teach others — and that’s how Managing Thought was born.
I developed the workshops in 2002 and became an expert resource for Vistage International, the world’s pre-eminent organization for the personal and professional development of chief executives and began sharing the work with CEOs around the world who then invited me to meet with their employees, families and communities.
The workshop participants encouraged me to write a book so they’d have something to refer to and to help as many people as possible. I finished the book on January 3, 2006. When I closed my computer, I noticed that I felt hesitant about publishing the book. I wondered if I would practice what I teach in the face of real adversity.
Two days later, my husband died suddenly. We were married just three months. That in and of itself was tragic. In the year that followed, I experienced over ten major life events that are on the list of events that can lead to depression or suicide. In that year, I learned that I do practice what I teach and that what I am teaching applies to every aspect of work and life. And with every tragedy, I also experienced a miracle.
I released the book in 2008 through Ferne Press and the book has just been re-released by McGraw-Hill on a world-wide basis, and in other languages in China, India, and Korea. The book and audio book earned six different best book awards for business motivation, conscious business and leadership, communication, spiritual enlightenment, self-help, and thought leadership. Previous winners of the most recent award include Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, and the Dalai Lama. The publishers said that it is highly unusual for a book to be recognized as exemplary by such diverse organizations and to be recognized as best in class in more than one, much less six, different categories.
They said they believe the book will be as, or more, far-reaching than The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and How to Win Friends and Influence People.
It’s my mission to be of highest and best service to you. Any time I can help you fulfill your highest intentions and be the highest vision of yourself, I am of service to the world. The ripple effect is of considerable magnitude.